Kim Kabar, LMFT

My Clients

I work with adults (18+) living in California and Arizona.

My clients are diverse in gender identity, affectional orientation, and lived experience. Some of my clients are LGBTQ+ and some are not; what connects them isn’t identity, but the depth of what they’re carrying.

Many come in with deep fears of being judged, quiet hopes that life could feel different, and painful beliefs that they are somehow “not enough.” These aren’t just thoughts — they are messages shaped in environments where safety was inconsistent and support was scarce.

The Core of the Work
I believe that at the core of every human being is joy — a steady, radiant center that can get buried under layers of shame, fear, pain, and survival strategies.

Therapy isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about excavating who you already are and reclaiming what was always yours.

When You’re Ready for Deeper Work
Many of my clients have been in therapy before — some are even therapists themselves — and are ready to go deeper.

They want to move beyond insight-only talk therapy and incorporate neurologically-informed treatments like:

• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
• KAP (Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy)

while still grounding the work in reflective dialogue informed by Feminist, Narrative, and Trauma-Focused CBT approaches.

Patterns We Work With
If you’re struggling with patterns like:

• Emotional or distorted eating
• Isolation or withdrawing
• Compulsive relationship cycles
• Pornography use
• Technology overuse (social media, doom scrolling)

our work focuses on what’s underneath — not just the behavior.

Your nervous system learned to survive.
Now we teach it to live.
We use trauma-informed methods to release what no longer belongs, making room for relief, clarity, and joy.

How I Hold the Space
I am an LGBTQ+ affirming therapist.
I work with people who are tired of carrying the weight of what others couldn’t give, couldn’t see, or couldn’t hold — and who are ready to stop shrinking themselves to survive.
Together, we tell the truth, we name what was never named, and we build a life that fits the person you are becoming.

Approaches I Draw From
Feminist Approach
Examines how cultural, socioeconomic, racial, and familial systems shape identity and internal beliefs — especially core beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “my needs don’t matter” — and supports reclaiming agency and self-definition.

Narrative Approach
Helps separate you from the story you learned about yourself, so you can revise the meaning of your experiences and live from strength rather than survival.

Trauma-Focused CBT
Integrates emotional processing and cognitive restructuring to reduce trauma-based fear responses and support new patterns of thinking, relating, and self-soothing.

Neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ Affirming

In working with neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ individuals, I’ve found that nearly all have endured some form of identity rejection. Many of my clients learned early in life to hide their authentic selves and conform to the expectations of a heteronormative, binary system as a means of survival. From a young age, they were taught—directly or indirectly—to align with the roles and behaviors assigned to them at birth, including how and whom they should love.
For neurodivergent clients, the pressure to mask or “fit in” can be especially painful. The fear of rejection often leads to constant calculations about how to move through the world safely—shaping how they express emotion, pursue connection, and protect themselves from harm. Over time, these adaptations can disconnect people from their true identities and internal sense of worth.
Exploring one’s gender identity, affectional orientation, and neurodivergent experience within a safe, nonjudgmental therapeutic space offers a chance to reclaim self-knowledge, agency, and acceptance. It’s a process of undoing the old survival strategies and remembering that who you are was never the problem.